Tearing Out Your Eyes For Purity
Manversation – The first goal for our time is to build meaningful and honest relationships with other men.
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- Introduce yourself – name, phone number and known birth marks 🙂
- When was the first time you looked at porn and how does that make you feel now? Would you go back and undo what you looked at back then?
- ILL: I read the other day of 9 yr old girl who began looking at porn when she was 6 because lack of supervision on a device.
Relentlessly Pursing Purity in our Manhood
This is a massive problem because of the proliferation the accessibility of porn – it is just a click away!
- Porn makes more money than the NFL, NBA and MLB combined. Not to mention marketing that prostitutes the bodies of women to sell products and services.
What is sexual sin?
- Matthew 5:27-30 – Sexual perversion is: Rebelling against God’s design by physically, mentally or emotionally acting like you are married to someone when you are not, and/or sexually mistreating your spouse.
- Jesus says sexual sin is ultimately a heart issue in us that must be aggressively and severely dealt with. Eternity hangs in the balance (Matthew 5:30).
What does sexual sin do to men?
- God dysfunction A blogger claimed the # 1 issue among college men is the sin of lusting over porn that results in doubting the assurance of their salvation.
- Relational dysfunction – it results in our dishonoring the image of God in women. It makes us less helpful spiritually.
- Sexual dysfunction – studies find that men who look at pornography are less intimate with their spouse.
- “Sin is missing the mark. It is transgression. It is rebellion. It is iniquity. It is evil, and only evil. It covers us with guilt and shame and shame and filthiness. It is folly, the opposite of wisdom. It is a lie, the opposite of truth. It unmans a man. Left to itself it crushes him who indulges in it. It covers the soul with a pall (dark cloud) of the deepest sadness. It separates between God and his creature. One sin naturally leads to another. It shuts the mouth. It opens hell…And God hates it. If we think lightly of sin, we shall not be much concerned to get rid of its guilt or defilement, nor be very watchful against its assaults, nor very thankful for supposed deliverance from its curse or its power.” WS Plumer
Why are men so susceptible to the sin of sexual perversion?
- We are visually driven. This isn’t all bad. There is something good in that God has given us this drive. But it is reserved for our spouse and it is dangerous when perverted. Matthew 6:22 “They eye is the lamp of the body. So if your eye is healthy, you whole body will be full of light.”
- The sins that are the most dangerous are the ones that are perversions of a good thing God has created for His glory and our enjoyment.
- We are not disciplined and so we are:
- Lazy – porn and lust are too good to be true. Porn is too easy. Relationships that produce loving physical and intimate interactions require patience and serving. “How can a young man keep his way pure? By guarding it according to your word.” Ps. 119:9.
- Empty – Full of the flesh and not of the Spirit. Because we are lazy, we do not discipline ourselves for Godliness (1 Tim. 4:7-8) and therefore we are not full of the things of God, which leaves lots of room for the flesh.
- We are fake – we are not honest. We must be accountable about the extent of our struggle with sexual sin.
Why Are These Men Downloading Child Porn from May 30, 2017 Psychology Today “One popular sight boasts 91 million videos were viewed last year alone. That is 12.5 videos for every person on earth. The popularity of internet porn is generally attributed to the three A’s – anonymity, availability and affordability. People can learn about sex and engage in experimentation without personal vulnerability or fear of embarrassment. There is no responsibility for another’s satisfaction.”
How do we fight for the joy of purity?
- We make sure we are saved. You need positional righteousness and you need Spirit power that comes from becoming a new creation (Eph. 1:12-13 and 2 Cor. 5:17).
- We make sure we are repenting. If you fail and fall, repent. Repent as much as you have to in order to progressively kill the sin of sexual immorality.
- We fight it with every weapon we can muster:
- We make commitments (Job. 31:1) to ourselves and others.
- We make sure we are nourished and full of the Spirit. Eph. 5:18
- We employ negative ILL: Could be your daughter or mom. Are you a rapist?
- Are you an atheist? Then why do you act like no one is seeing when God is looking? God is with us and watching.
- We preach to ourselves that those we love the most need our purity. Don’t you want to be spiritually sensitive to God? Don’t you want to be able to say to your children, you can do this.
- We warn our sons and daughters about it. By the age of eleven, we have better have had the talk about the dangers that lurk and can kill.
- We choose to never to give up, repenting and clinging to the perfect gospel.
Remind ourselves that sex is God’s idea and it is good when done within the protective boundaries of marriage (Gen. 1:27; 2:24).
PRAYER – Lord God, help us to trust in Christ for our standing before You. Help us to be full of Your Holy Spirit and to be like Your Son, who was fully human and never sinned sexually. Lord God, empower us to never give up fighting sexual perversion, for the good of others and your glory and our joy. Amen.